So yesterday we were talking about the love we need to have for ourselves and the pride that we need to take in our appearance.
I know that a lot of you are thinking that you do not have the time to worry about make up, and fashion isn’t as important as comfortable. The truth is that you do have the time. Make up doesn’t have to take that long. Not to mention, comfortable and fashionable is a realistic expectation.
Today we are going to talk about the easy steps to taking care of YOU first.
From now on you are an empowered, organized woman. Even if you aren’t there yet you are on your way so claim it and start living it. You are the woman who picks out her outfit and prepares for the morning rush the night before. You are the woman who has an up to date to-do list in her phone or purse every week. Not to mention your goal list that is fresh in your mind. Your calendar is up to date with all of your up coming events, and arrangements have been made for the night of.
Now a lot of you are reading the last paragraph and thinking “Yea Right”. I can understand that, but I cannot accept that. It is a proven fact that getting your life more organize reduces your stress, improves your mood and improves the flow of your day. I’m not asking you to have every step of your day planned, but I am saying that it is time to stop making excuses and time to start moving.
Start out today by…
1. Update your calendar:
Go thorough all your invites and appointment cards and get them all in one place. I am old-fashioned so I love to have a planner in my purse at all times that allows me to keep constant track of my appointments. I am also able to make notes of the events I did on a daily basis.
You never know when that little note in your personal calendar that you called the cable company to change your plan could turn into a life saver when they claim you never called. Keep track of your menstrual and any body changes so that when you go to the doctor you have accurate information.
Also, note the children’s accomplishments so that no matter when you get to that scrapbook and baby book you will have the information you need. You have no idea how keeping a calendar of your events will make you feel so in control of your life.
2. Get it together Honey…
Now that you have cleared up your schedule and you have the weeks ahead planned lets move on to some other things that need to get in order. Are you the type that is rushing out of the house every time you have somewhere to go? This can make it very hard to plan activities outside of the house if every experience is a hassle. Make it a point to plan out your day the night before. Pick out your outfits, pack your diaper bag, double-check your purse to make sure everything you need is in there. Put your keys and phone in the same place every night so that you aren’t frantically looking for them on the way out of the door…lastly double check everything!
When you prepare yourself for any activity you will come out on top! When we fail to plan we plan to fail. Set out your make up the night before. All any woman needs in her daily make-up routine is a foundation with SPF, black or brown mascara, and a nude or pink lip gloss. These 3 items are your ‘Fabulousity staples’. If you have 5-10 minutes to get dressed then plan on a classy high bun. Add a balm/oil/mousse to your hair slick it back in a pony tail and wrap the excess hair around the hair tie. If you have more time then you can always curl just the top 2 layers of your hair and bump the ends of the last layers for a fresh style that looks like you just stepped out of a salon. Add a little volume spray to the roots for a fuller look.
Looking for a casual but cute outfit? Try leggings with long tank top or blouse and a blazer. Match that with some earrings and flats and you are ready to go. This outfit flatters all figures, budgets, and most importantly it is mom friendly.
3. Dare to Dream
Pick a day of the week or month that you will dedicate to self-reflection. Make notes of things you want to change. Things that you have improved on and things that you want to explore. Search resorts in your area that you would like to visit and add that to your goal list. Make a budget for the life that you want to live one day to see what salary you need to be working towards.
If you have been wanting to take a Zumba class but aren’t sure if you’ll like it. Then contact the centers in your area and see if there is a drop in rate or a free session for curious consumers. If your goal is to surround yourself with like mind people then try out a new church. Spend your Saturdays mornings at Starbucks or the park. You must get out of your element to truly see what it is that you want to do.
4. Your happiness…
This is the most important step so make sure you are listening. Bananas are red!…Hun?! Ok, you’re listening so I can move forward. I will repeat that this is the most important step! This is the time that you don’t have time to listen to anyone but yourself and God. This is the time when you are going to learn that you do not have to limit your expectations for your life. You will become a creator of your future. You will be the voice you allow to motivate you. Do this and it wont be long before you are exactly where you want to be.
The reason this step is so important is because a lot of us become almost dependent on someone elses opinions of us. This is so dangerous. Be aware of yourself. You are the only person that can keep you from the destiny that has been chosen for you and waiting for you. The people we normally trust with our passions and dreams are people we love and trust. Even still we must remember that the devil will use anyone to distract you. The devil will use the people you love and trust the most to put the biggest stumbling block in front of us. Allow me to explain that these people aren’t coming at you with the intent to hurt you or distract you. Dont blame them. Never allow your past or present be an excuse of why you aren’t moving forward.
You are fully capable of making the changes you desire right now. You can completely be made over today. Am I the only person who went though a time so hard that you just wanted to press the restart button? Felt so discourage and so far away from any type of goal or dream that the steps you were making felt purposeless? I went through a time that was so damaging to my spirits that I just felt lost. I was praying. I was studying the word of God, but I still was feeling like I wasnt good enough.
I felt like I wasnt holding up my end of the bargain because I went from a working Mother to a stay at home Mother. I went around thinking that my husband was disappointed in me. That my grandfather was so in need of me that I didn’t need to worry about myself. I didn’t just need a visually pleasing make over I needed a spiritual make over. I realized that the outside was just a reflection of what I was truly feeling on the inside. There wasnt anything my husband was doing wrong. There was nothing my family was doing wrong. There was something that I was doing wrong. I needed to quit being the hostess of my own pity party.
I woke up every morning just knowing it was going to be a crazy day. I had to learn how to stop speaking pollution into my life. I had to start speaking beautiful fragrant acres of wild flowers, roses, gardenia, and Trees of life, bushes of fruitful berries. The good thing is amazing things can grow from the garbage that we have inside of us. Like the Gospel singing group Mary Mary sings “We all need a little bit of dirt to grow”…
Love & Blessings,